Secular lives or Spiritual lives?

This morning, as I was reading through Philippians, I came across a question in my devotions that really opened my eyes. The question was "Am I more likely to strive for excellence in my secular life or my spiritual life?" It took me a while to answer this question. I know that my spiritual life is growing and I want to just be everything God wants me to be, but I also have been struggling with trying to fit in. We went on a field trip on Thursday. The only girl that I sort of hang out with in that class is one who everyone thinks is perfect. She is...beautiful! She can be mean at times, but she is the perfect, ideal looking girl! It bothered me so much! I got home and was a total mess. I cried and cried. No matter how hard one of my friends tried, she couldn't get it through my head that it didn't matter what our outer beings looked like. That night, I also pushed away an amazing boyfriend. He also kept trying to tell me that it didn't matter. I went to bed crying that night...feeling like I had lost so much. Then, this morning, I found this passage.

Philippians 3:12-19
12Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already been made perfect, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. 13Brothers, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, 14I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.
15All of us who are mature should take such a view of things. And if on some point you think differently, that too God will make clear to you. 16Only let us live up to what we have already attained.
17Join with others in following my example, brothers, and take note of those who live according to the pattern we gave you. 18For, as I have often told you before and now say again even with tears, many live as enemies of the cross of Christ. 19Their destiny is destruction, their god is their stomach, and their glory is in their shame. Their mind is on earthly things.

This is when I remembered the true goal that I am searching for. Its not finding outer beauty, its not finding acceptance in those who really don't care about me, its about running towards Christ and holding onto His truths. In the Message version, its says that many who are running the same race as you may choose to take other paths of destruction and also may try to get you to follow them. Nothing but pure truth! I thought of something as I read this. Instead of following them down this path, cut them off and bring them back to the right path. If I only accomplish one thing in life, may it be brining as many as I can to the right path, so that they also may receive the prize!